Is Cheating Always Bad? - What to Know About Infidelity

What is cheating?

The definition of cheating can vary depending on who you ask, but typically, it is defined as being unfaithful to one's partner or spouse. This can encompass a variety of behaviors, such as having an affair, sexting someone else, kissing or touching someone else intimately, or even going out with another person without your partner's knowledge.

Is cheating always wrong?


The answer isn't so black-and-white. Infidelity itself is usually a symptom of a more significant problem - not the problem itself. There can be many reasons why someone might cheat on their partner, which have nothing at all to do with how they feel about them or the relationship in general.


That depends on your perspective. From a moral standpoint, many people believe that cheating is always wrong - no matter the circumstances. However, from a practical standpoint, infidelity is usually a symptom of a larger problem - not the problem itself. In other words, there are usually underlying issues in the relationship that lead to one partner cheating in the relationship.


It's not uncommon for people to think that infidelity is a "deal-breaker" when it comes to relationships. But is this really the case? It seems like every day there are new articles telling us that being cheated on will leave you feeling devastated, betrayed, and unable to trust again. What if these are just sensationalized headlines meant to sell magazines or get clicks online?

Reasons for Cheating in Relationships


It's important to remember that not every reason for cheating is a conscious decision - many people cheat because they lack the emotional tools and support needed to be in an intimate relationship. They may have been taught from a young age that love equals pain or abandonment, or perhaps their partner didn't meet all of their needs or expectations which left them feeling frustrated and disappointed.


They might also feel like they're stuck in a rut due to inflexible boundaries within the relationship (for example, if one person always does everything together but never allows space for themselves). Couples can grow apart quickly without realizing it, leading someone to seek intimacy elsewhere as an escape route instead of talking with their partner about what's going on inside. This kind of behavior is observed when the person feels that they can't express themselves or their needs without being judged, criticized, blamed, etc.


Exploration of the reasons why someone cheated is essential to moving forward in a healthy way and it's important for both partners to participate; however if one partner isn't willing or ready to explore this (or stops after awhile), then couples might be better off seeking help elsewhere.

When is cheating toxic?


Infidelity is never acceptable when used as an act of control, but otherwise, there are many different paths towards healing from betrayal. When cheating is used as a tool of control over the other partner and it's not addressed, it can leave the victim feeling helpless and hopeless. If infidelity is used to exert jealousy, or if it's done with malicious intent (i.e., revenge) then that can be toxic and there may need to be an end of this relationship in order for healing to happen.


That being said - a lot depends on how each person feels about what they're doing. If cheating is causing someone emotional pain, then addressing those feelings might help them realize that their actions are not ok. That being said, some people feel justified when they cheat because, during sex, they often lose the sense of time and place so it doesn't really matter if their spouse sees them at that point.


There are actually many different reasons why someone cheats which have nothing do with the partner. Our parents are often a source of this behavior because we learn how to be in relationships by watching them. If our parents cheated, then that becomes the example we follow when it comes to love and sex. But we can always get better with therapy.


There are other reasons, too, like feeling neglected or unimportant in the relationship. If someone feels that their partner is not meeting their needs, they may turn to someone else to fill that space. This could be emotional or physical intimacy that's being sought after.

Sometimes people cheat because they're afraid of getting divorced. They may think that if they have an affair, their partner will magically change and want to stay together. This isn't really a healthy mindset to have though because it can put a lot of undue stress on the relationship. Then there are those who cheat as a way to get back at their partners for something they did wrong.


Maybe they were caught lying or they were emotionally distant and this was the only way. They're trying to get revenge. If this is the case, maybe they should focus on better ways of communicating their feelings rather than resorting to infidelity because that's just going to create more dysfunction in the relationship.

Infidelity can also take place if one or both partners are dealing with unresolved trauma from childhood or past relationships.


Sometimes people cheat without even realizing it and sometimes it can be a cry for help - especially when emotions run high during certain points in life like after having kids, getting married, etc. It's important not to ignore these signs though because cheating does affect other areas of your relationship such as trustworthiness and emotional intimacy which will need time restoring once you've worked through any underlying issues present within the marriage/relationship itself.

What to do when finding out?


The key thing here is setting clear boundaries around safety; many people feel incredibly betrayed upon learning their partner cheated so it's important to take care of yourself during this time without making any major decisions.


Sometimes infidelity can actually strengthen a relationship! For instance, couples who bring their issues up during therapy sessions often find themselves growing closer together after they work through those problems. It's important not only to address the trauma caused by cheating but also what led us down that path in order for healing to take place That being said - if you feel like your partner is using infidelity as a tool of abuse do not hesitate to seek professional help immediately! This means going beyond just talking about why your spouse cheats and preventing them from doing so again.


It may even strengthen your relationship once you've worked through everything together! The bottom line? If you truly love each other and care about the future of your relationship enough not to let infidelity define what comes next - therapy can help you both heal and move on stronger than ever.

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